Many couples come to us asking for advice on whether or not to do a “first look”. For those of you that aren’t yet keen on this term, it means, do you do a reveal to your significant other before the actual ceremony? This can be just the two of you (plus the photographers to capture the emotional moment), or it could also include your wedding party (which many times ask if they can look on as well).
Our answer to couples asking this is always another question: what feels more special to you? Do you feel more comfortable seeing each other for the first time on your wedding day when you have a moment alone? You can compose yourselves after letting yourselves fall apart just a bit so as to not have to go through all that in front of your guests. Or do you want that moment when you finally see each other to be shared with your loved ones when you walk down the aisle and lock eyes for the first time just minutes before you say “I do”?
There are definitely pros and cons to either, but of course it depends on each individual couple. (Some people are criers)! One pro of doing a first look is that you can easily slip right into bridal party photos, which clears some time up if you’re ones that want to catch some cocktail hour, or if you have a later ceremony and there won’t be much light after for photos. So in this case, it may be down to the scheduling of the day. What makes it easiest and most comfortable for you?
A reason we hear that couples don’t want to do a first look is they want the magic of the ceremony with all of their guests. They don’t want to fake anything around their loved ones, and this is the way they always saw their wedding happening. It can be more emotional for the couple to see each other just before they vow their commitment to one another. If you’re into traditions, this might be the option for you.
Our couples are usually split about 50/50, so don’t worry about what anyone else is doing or tells you to do. The ultimate decision is yours, and we are here to work with you, not just throughout your day, but also the planning of it.